Good morning, Brad an artisan glad to be with you again, as we continue our series on speaking and how to speak properly and what we need to be doing front of the audience, because in today’s situations, front of the room speakers teachers we find ourselves confined to This little box, so let me ask you this: how many times have you been around people or yourself and you kept hearing the UM the so you you know, you know what I mean or like like like right right right.
Well, we’ve all probably been support and part of it.
I know when I was in college my first history, professor and a course of 45 to 60 minutes.
He would say um um well over a hundred times and we would actually keep on that.
But these things happen to people were there in front of the room, we’re speaking because they’re a little rattled they’re experts of what they’re doing, but one comes to speaking in groups of people.
They are a little nervous, so they’re distracted their loss of how to get their thought across because they are brilliant.
So they find these easy filler words.
These are a crutch, as you do know, especially if you’re being paid to talk to organizations or to train people, and these crutch words can impact the ultimate message from content that you’re trying to get across to someone.
So the trouble with much helping words, if you will it’s really hard to pay attention when you know that every third or fourth word is going to be a crutch word.
You slowly start to drift in your mind or if you have your technology and you’re gone and if you’re the person in front of the room, the speaker, the teacher for that, it’s not gon na get any better.
It’s gon na get worse and you’re gon na feel, like the content, the story that you want to tell them that.
Well, maybe you’re, not that good at it.
Now you are, we just got ta find a way to cut back on some using of these words.
So I would suggest get your message across effectively to keep the audience engaged and we talked about that previously.
So, let’s find something: maybe it’s humor, maybe it’s a direct.
Maybe it’s something that somebody said in the past: historically, something that can grab them and now the audience will look at you and say: okay, how are you gon na relate that to something because people want to believe in your content.
They want to have this one-on-one with you.
If you want your audience to really understand your message, you must make it clear logical and it has to be easy to follow, can be done.
But once again I have this crutch in front of me that I’m trying to overcome so in general, then why isn’t all of our speech just flaunt? Why can’t it just roll out without using these hums and ahhs? Well, each one of us.
We have these Dilton nerve receptors and sometimes we’re nervous.
The nerves can overwhelm you now.
I don’t know if you played anything that petted ability, like sports or music they’ve done anything or even speaking, or teaching yeah nothing wrong with being a little nervous.
But we have to find a way with confidence with the courage of our conviction to still get our message across.
So just some things to think about to eliminate some of these crutch words embrace a pause, nothing, nothing wrong with that.
So what do you mean by them? A great man once said Winston Churchill, it’s better to be prepared for an opportunity that never comes then have an opportunity come and you’re not prepared pause.
What do you think that audience is going through looking at others thinking wow? That’s something now that pause is not elongated, maybe a tenth of a second.
You can read the room, maybe a half of a second.
You can read the room, but once you start seeing them, maybe nod their head, we’re starting to smile and agree with you now they’re starting to understand what you’re trying to to get across.
So pausing eliminates some of these crutch words.
Another thing always collect your thoughts.
Always try to have maybe some index cards or, if you try to stir it from your mind and make clutter it, but try to get a sequence of what you’re trying to get out.
If you miss something, don’t worry about going back, just continue to go on, our nerves are going to be there, but believe me, the more confident you are when you start speaking the nerves go away and storytelling the build Simpsons ensign to it.
I was always taught – and I still teach many times – that people that are in front of the room – sales, people, people who done some things – that other people haven’t.
They are great storytellers.
They can build suspense and people really they really enjoy that.
So three steps to remember and we’ll wind it down for the morning.
The very first thing challenge yourself really challenge yourself before you get up there without biting your nails or anything that I am going to do everything I can to stay away from these crutch words.
You be aware of it, each and every time you start looking and engaging and giving a new thought from your content to the audience.
Once you think, you’ve gotten that just try to remember pieces, small pieces, because the shorter I can get the message out, the less I’m going to need of this filler and if it does come from within, be silent, just be silent and let the people in the Audience gather a little bit more of what you’re thinking.
Finally, I can’t stress enough about the importance of being prepared if you’ve listened to anything that I’ve said so for practice.
Practice practice practice practice practice practice.
Please practice before you get in front of your audience and the last thing take a deep breath breathe throughout it.
A whole lot of people get in front of the room, whether you are speaking or teaching or trying to give an audience some of your content.
So they can understand, we don’t breathe.
I can emphasize this more, maybe you’ve seen it heard about it, but people have had to stop their speeches because they almost lost that completely so practice.
These things and you’d be amazed.
You’ll stay away from these crutch words of the arms arms, don’t you know, and all of those those crazy things there with that.
So hopefully you got something out of this.
We’re always trying to do something a little bit different to give to you, because I know how it is speaking in front of a robot then bless the do it a long time.
So we just want to give you some health, because someone helped me years ago.
So once again, four and an artisan four champion strategies hope you got something out of it and, as always, make the champion.